36 Question Love (template)

Created by Nikol Vypior (osobní/personal)

#conversation, #couple, #opinion, #psychology, #questions, #relationship, #self-knowledge, #therapy, #values

Quick instructions:

Read one question aloud to your partner and then both answer it. You can write the answers in the cell. You can also sort the questions or come back to them later. Switch roles for the next question.

You can also answer the questions separately or alone.

You can colour the questions that were difficult, easy or you did not find the answer. It's up to you!

It should take approximately one hour to answer all 36 questions, but time is of the essence...

Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

What is your most treasured memory?

If you could invite anyone in the world to dinner, who would it be?

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30 year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

What is your most terrible memory?

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

What do you value most in a friendship?

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

What does friendship mean to you?

What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … ”

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … ”

Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?